Just a personal opinion of the 'friends' I have met throughout my secondary school and poly life.
Not meant to offend anyone, but if you know which kind of friends you are, time for some reflection.
I have been through this kind of things countless of times. Definitely more than the amount that i can count with my fingers.
"Hey bro, I support you till the end"
Yes, they told you this. But guess what, the moment you turned, you have no idea whether they are smiling at you. An evil smile.
Then you heard from your friends that this 'brother' of yours has been speaking behind your back.
"This bastard, he really think that i support him? Fat hope. He's a fucking loser."
He act like your FRIEND, but in fact, he isn't. You treated him as a friend, but in fact, he is a 'FRENEMY'.
2) 'Friends' who put aeroplane
Yes, we often have friends who ask you out at times. Or rather, we 'booked' them in advance. Probably 1 weeks. One example of what i experienced. I booked 1 month in advance. If you were in that situation, do you expect your friends to check their schedule and get back to you?
Oh yes, i did expect that. Replies i got was "yes i can", "i think i can" , "steady la" etc.
Never trust this bunch of people who put aeroplanes no matter in what kind of situation.
Because even if you remind them 1 week before the 'booking', they will tell you "got ah?" ,
"since when you ask sia?" "never say earlier!" etc.
This type of friends are definitely not your TRUE FRIEND.
3) 'Friends' who will pay you back next time and doesn't
I haven't actually experience this before, not because i don't lend people money. But most friends that i lent money to are people who trust.
But admit it guys, we often saw people sharing posts and tweets on Facebook and twitter about this guy or girl owing money for 1 year plus already and yet to pay back.
Well, there are two sides to the story. We won't judge on that. But don't you hate it when people won't pay you back even if they said they will back then?
4) 'Friends' that don't have time for you...
Friends that don't have time for you but has time for their classmates. Wow. Simply unbelievable. I've been through this for numerous of times, and it just sucks so much.
A - "Hey dude, any free time for lunch this few days?"
B - "Hey there, so sorry i don't have time this few days. I need to rush my projects"
And then for the rest of the days, you walked past the canteen and you saw him with his bunch of ladies and gentlemen having lunch together. Instant feeling of 'betrayal'.
5) 'Friends' who are only willing to accompany you when their partners are away.
It's the fact somehow. We rarely get to see our friends when they are in a romantic relationship. I'm not trying to say that get out of that relationship and spend more time with me. I would say, go for a balanced relationship between your partner and your friends.
But it seems really bastard when this friend of yours decide to accompany you ONLY when his/her partner is away. It seems like he/she only make time for his/her partner.
6) The friend who swears she won’t tell anyone that huge secret you just accidentally told her...
Admit it, we always have this friend in our life. And the next day, the whole school knows about it. And this huge secret that you told her usually is this small crush that you have.
Seems like you gonna have a little bit of awkward moment with that crush of yours.
7) The friends who constantly brag about every single thing.
"Hey, this is my new phone!"
"WOW. I had starbucks today!"
"I have this friend of mine who treated me to a great dinner!"
Enough said. You don't seems like you care. Ear plug please.
8) The friends that take 1 full day or more to reply you...
I really hate this so much. It can literally burn 1000 calories out of my daily calories intake just to wait for the reply.
It seems impossible to make plans with him/her. And when you finally do, he/she inevitably cancel it or reschedule it with some lousy excuses.
9) The friends that insist on having this and that
Trust me. When we get into big group or cliques, there are bound to have conflict. There will be one friend who wants to eat Mac, then the other one wants KFC, then there's a friend who want to eat healthily like salad.
Then this friend of yours insist on eating mac and everyone follow suits. It seems everyone is giving in every time.
10) The friends that will add a little bit of sarcasm to every sentence they make...
"Hey, you look good, for someone like your size."
We really hate this kind of people. I know there are times that we can be really comfortable with each other like "Hey you fucker. ". Of course we know it's a damn joke.
But hey, there isn't any need for that sarcasm. And that isn't funny at all.
Perhaps we should make a comment to him/her like
"Hey, you seemed busy with everything. Busy fucking your bloody mind too?"
Nah, I doubt we want to be like him/her either. Sucks to be like him/her anyway.
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so.. if you ever have this kind of friends, I would suggest DUMP them seriously. They are like toxic to you. Ready to fuck your mind, torture you mentally.
