10 Types of Worst Friend Ever

Just a personal opinion of the 'friends' I have met throughout my secondary school and poly life.

Not meant to offend anyone, but if you know which kind of friends you are, time for some reflection.

1) 'Friends' who backstabbed you

I have been through this kind of things countless of times. Definitely more than the amount that i can count with my fingers. 

"Hey bro, I support you till the end" 

Yes, they told you this. But guess what, the moment you turned, you have no idea whether they are smiling at you. An evil smile. 

Then you heard from your friends that this 'brother' of yours has been speaking behind your back. 

"This bastard, he really think that i support him? Fat hope. He's a fucking loser." 

He act like your FRIEND, but in fact, he isn't. You treated him as a friend, but in fact, he is a 'FRENEMY'. 

2) 'Friends' who put aeroplane

Yes, we often have friends who ask you out at times. Or rather, we 'booked' them in advance. Probably 1 weeks. One example of what i experienced. I booked 1 month in advance. If you were in that situation, do you expect your friends to check their schedule and get back to you? 

Oh yes, i did expect that. Replies i got was "yes i can", "i think i can" , "steady la" etc.

Never trust this bunch of people who put aeroplanes no matter in what kind of situation. 

Because even if you remind them 1 week before the 'booking', they will tell you "got ah?" , 

"since when you ask sia?" "never say earlier!" etc.

This type of friends are definitely not your TRUE FRIEND.

3) 'Friends' who will pay you back next time and doesn't

I haven't actually experience this before, not because i don't lend people money. But most friends that i lent money to are people who trust.

But admit it guys, we often saw people sharing posts and tweets on Facebook and twitter about this guy or girl owing money for 1 year plus already and yet to pay back.

Well, there are two sides to the story. We won't judge on that. But don't you hate it when people won't pay you back even if they said they will back then? 

4) 'Friends' that don't have time for you...

Friends that don't have time for you but has time for their classmates. Wow. Simply unbelievable. I've been through this for numerous of times, and it just sucks so much. 

A - "Hey dude, any free time for lunch this few days?" 

B - "Hey there, so sorry i don't have time this few days. I need to rush my projects"

And then for the rest of the days, you walked past the canteen and you saw him with his bunch of ladies and gentlemen having lunch together. Instant feeling of 'betrayal'.

5) 'Friends' who are only willing to accompany you when their partners are away.

It's the fact somehow. We rarely get to see our friends when they are in a romantic relationship. I'm not trying to say that get out of that relationship and spend more time with me. I would say, go for a balanced relationship between your partner and your friends.

But it seems really bastard when this friend of yours decide to accompany you ONLY when his/her partner is away. It seems like he/she only make time for his/her partner.

6) The friend who swears she won’t tell anyone that huge secret you just accidentally told her...

Admit it, we always have this friend in our life. And the next day, the whole school knows about it. And this huge secret that you told her usually is this small crush that you have. 

Seems like you gonna have a little bit of awkward moment with that crush of yours.

7) The friends who constantly brag about every single thing.

"Hey, this is my new phone!"

"WOW. I had starbucks today!"

"I have this friend of mine who treated me to a great dinner!"

Enough said. You don't seems like you care.  Ear plug please.

8) The friends that take 1 full day or more to reply you...

I really hate this so much. It can literally burn 1000 calories out of my daily calories intake just to wait for the reply. 

It seems impossible to make plans with him/her. And when you finally do, he/she inevitably cancel it or reschedule it with some lousy excuses.

9) The friends that insist on having this and that

Trust me. When we get into big group or cliques, there are bound to have conflict. There will be one friend who wants to eat Mac, then the other one wants KFC, then there's a friend who want to eat healthily like salad.

Then this friend of yours insist on eating mac and everyone follow suits. It seems everyone is giving in every time. 

10) The friends that will add a little bit of sarcasm to every sentence they make...

"Hey, you look good, for someone like your size."

We really hate this kind of people. I know there are times that we can be really comfortable with each other like "Hey you fucker. ". Of course we know it's a damn joke.

But hey, there isn't any need for that sarcasm. And that isn't funny at all.

Perhaps we should make a comment to him/her like 

"Hey, you seemed busy with everything. Busy fucking your bloody mind too?"

Nah, I doubt we want to be like him/her either. Sucks to be like him/her anyway.

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so.. if you ever have this kind of friends, I would suggest DUMP them seriously. They are like toxic to you. Ready to fuck your mind, torture you mentally. 

Craziest Friday Night Ever

That amount of hype and wow factor was completely fascinating. 

This year's Honours Day was completely unbelievable. 

As one of the guests being invited to Greendale 8th Honours Day, the fact that Greendale is already celebrating their 8th Honours Day kind of shook me. I could still remember vividly that in 2009, I was part of the 'event backbone' of the 3rd Honours Day. 

Time really past very quickly. It's 2014 and Greendale Honours Day has entered its 8th installment.

To me, it's still quite shocking. But nevertheless, as an alumni, I'm really glad that Greendale has grew so much from Nurturing Talents, Developing Character to Inspiring Lives.

One thing that I'm proud of being an Alumni is that we are able to nurture talents in the alma mater.

It's not easy that Greendale managed this far. This 8 to 9 years has been a long one, especially for those teachers who have stayed throughout since the first day Greendale was set up.

(With Mr Chen PK, co-form of my sec4 class)

(Uhh, a complete family photo? This two couple teachers must be glad that they have 4 adopted same-age kids!)

(Mr Syed is one of the most inspiring teacher i ever met. Having him was the turning point for my SS. From F9 to A1! An inspiring teacher indeed!)

Yes you won't believe this. Greendale has done it again. In 2012, they had the Greendale SHINES which was organised to appreciate what the students have done and contributed to the CCAs. It was held at the RUPEE room then. (clarkequay).

This year, they had a disco right in the Multi Purpose Hall (MPH). I must agree that the MPH is really multi purpose. From events to a disco. Completely wow. 

I mean WHICH SCHOOL CAN HAVE A DISCO IN THEIR SCHOOL COMPOUND?!

(With Jonas and Changzhi in the wow. 'disco' room)

I'm proud to be part of Greendale. Anyway, share a photo on Instagram that depicts your life in Greendale, hashtag #spreadthegreendalejoy and mention @greendale_alumni ! Perhaps you might be featured or even win a prize ! :)

Proud and Contented

Most of us heard about the recent controversy that involve the Miss Universe Singapore, Jesslyn Tan and one an unknown typical uncle on the train.

Apparently, we have not of heard of both parties' story yet. However, the uncle's daughter have apparently stepped up to confront the post by Ms Jesslyn Tan.

Of course, and obviously, the actions by Ms Tan have already shown that she is in line with our so called "judgemental society". We often call the society judgemental because they judge people based on their looks.  (and btw, i'm judging her right now, by her ACTIONS)

"Judge people by their actions, not their looks" - Desmond R.

In today context, we don't go around wearing shirts that are torn and with holes; since teens nowadays shown more support for looking good. (but hey, all of us want to look good sometimes, don't we?)

But when we stepped out of our comfort zones, out onto the streets, public transports etc, we do see some minimal amount of people who wear torn clothing. For example, some street performers may only have that one piece of perfect clothing. We never know. Or rather, there are some people who don't even have any tops.

So does that mean we can start judging and mocking someone who is topless? Mocking him/her that he/she is poor or he/she is in the new trend?


Stop it guys. Just because we live in a first world country, with high cost and standard of living, it doesn't mean that all of us rich.

 Some of us are poor. 

One thing great about being poor is that one will strive to work as much as possible to earn that amount of money that can last them a day, in the most humane way without betraying their conscience.

 There are many people who are just earning only about $2000 and under for a month. But when you think of those monthly expenses such as groceries, its appear that you will end up with a few hundred bucks. most of it will possibly end up in your savings.

 For a typical uncle who work at a stall, do you think he can still earn more than what we have after deducting all those expenses?

And just because he has some holes on his shirt, does not mean that one can mock him for being poor.

 I can be rich, but I can choose to wear a torn shirt. 

Thats the thing why society is unfair. Almost all of us judge people based on their looks.

And by the way, ever since the starting of this post, i have never judged Ms Tan based on her looks. She is pretty, and being a Ms Universe Singapore is already a wow-factor. She can even be a model or whatsoever.

But one thing she lack of is, the moral ethics of a human. One does not mock about people just because he/she is poor.

Who knows one day, all of will degrade to the same condition and situation where everyone is equal in every aspects. Money is just an instrument for various objectives. After all, we won't be bringing it into our grave after we pass away.

To be honest, my family is neither rich nor poor.

(and I believe that about 3/5 of the Singaporeans are in the same condition as my family)

Most of us live under the roof of a HDB flat. Some of us may have cars to drive to work, while some of us took buses and trains. We are never equal in some aspects. For example, there is this family of 6 who are relying on the mother, who is the sole breadwinner of the family. This mother of 4 may earn just only 1000 a month, but do you think it is enough to feed the whole family of 6?

It might not be enough to feed the whole family, but one thing sure is that, these tough times faced by the family brought them closer together.

For my family, whatever my parents earn are about just enough to feed the whole family of 4, with about probably 500bucks to spare for savings or anything else.

My mother is a just a typical government worker. (dude, she doesn't earn 5k a month. Just about 1k.)

And my father is just a typical odd-job worker for now. (earning about 30bucks a day)

We may not be rich, but we are not poor as well. We are just the your so called average-income family.  Or rather a middle class in Singapore, if there is.

Previously, when my father was a driver to deliver all those gas tanks in the morning, there were some people who asked me, "hey, what's your father's job/occupation?" .

I am never ashamed to tell everyone, my dad is a driver or even now, my dad is a typical odd-job worker.  

People who are ashamed of what your parents does for a living should really face the reality.  Money doesn't come by that easily.  Life can be difficult, but when we are willing to make the extra effort to be proud of what our parents does for a living, so that they feel motivated to earn more, then why not?

Just because that some of you out there are ashamed of what your parent does, it doesn't mean that you can ripped off them. Because they have been supporting you since you were born. From buying your diapers, your toys, whatever you want and even for some, paying for your education when you're already so abled.  They were using their money to support you.

Life can be tough and difficult, but do be reminded that whatever you received from your parents could be all that they have.  Feel contented.

Should we or should we not pay?

Well well. So I was looking through Facebook as well as other news site about the recent MH370 disappearance over the Vietnamese Airspace and I happened to came across this blog post by this female blogger and it was about...

"Why Guys Should Not Pay On The First Date"

And i read through it. Honestly speaking, sometimes we wonder about this question.

Should we or should we not pay for the other party?

And we really get stuck in a situation that is like between life and death.  It apparently means choosing a choice that may result the lady having a good impression of you, which is only a 50% probability. 

There are different views out there and I'm not saying that the blogger, Deborah is wrong either. We do have different ways of viewing things and it's great that Deborah actually feels that she shouldn't expect a guy to pay the bill on the first date.

After all, it hands down to 3 possible situations.

1. You pay the entire bill

2. She pay the entire bill

3. Split the bill and pay equally

But of course, it depends on the lady that you're having the date with.  You will have to understand her personality, through her dressing, the way she talked and the first impression that she gave you. 

Sometimes, we guys don't know how to judge a person. And then, we made the wrong judgement. And yes, the judging process here is somewhat relevant to the judgemental society here. It's either we judge a person favourably or unfavourably. 

I managed to speak to a few of my friends regarding this issue as well. We guys would usually pay on the first date because society portray as this way.  One scenario. Most of the time we will see guys proposing to a girl, but we rarely and maybe don't even see a lady proposing to a guy. 

It's the same kind of situation, but it's a matter of who taking the initiative. 

But most of the times, the way society portray us guys interfere with our thinking.

So what happens why you insist on paying when the lady actually said no? 

It just practically make the lady feel insulted.  Why? Because you're somehow making them feel like they can't afford it or even you buying their time just for a date. 

But what happens if we don't pay for the lady?

Well, it just make you look so ungentlemanly and make the lady feel cheap.

So what is my stand?  I would definitely offer to pay for the ladies first. 

1. Instigation of the (First) Date

Who ask who in this case? Was it the guy who asked the ladies out first or the other way round? Don't be bothered about this.  Just pay.  It would be normal for a guy to pay for the ladies. After all, you will probably managed to schedule another date with that beloved lady and she can pay for it the next date.  (that's most of the ladies will do, but not all.)

If it's you who instigated the date. Just pay. Because it's you, that's why she came to a date with you.
Imagine when the girl looks at you, expecting you to pay when the bills come. You don't want to look pathetic when you can't seems to pay for the bill, do you? But most of us can pay since it's the 21st Century as we have our debit and credit card ready for swiping.

Well, that brings us to our next point.


2. Impression of You.
Well, when we pay for the ladies, it does not only just show that we are gentlemen. It also shows that we have the responsibility, steady and well established. Some women are like this, they would think whether you are relationship-ready or not.  And it also shows your sincerity in asking her out for a date. You won't want to ruin her impression of you by not paying anyway. After all, if you're aiming to go after her, your impression must be good.  A girl won't want to have a boyfriend that is selfish, petty and doesn't take the initiative.


3. Special Occasions
If you asked her out because it's a special occasion like her birthday or her achievements, then yes, you should offer to pay. It will make you look classy and gracious. Just don't let her know about the price of the meal since i'm expecting you to bring her to a classy restaurant or hotel for a meal. Tell her it's on you.


4. She's testing you!
There are different ways of testing you.  Always take note, lady can be very crafty. No offence but yes.  For example, she can offer to pay for you. But take note, not all ladies are doing this for no reasons.  Whether if she is doing it subconsciously or not, it really test how you are going to react.  Sounds harsh.

Always remember, on the first date, she is trying to know about you. What kind and type of guys are you? Are you generous? Are you responsible?

That are just some reasons that i will offer to pay for the lady that I'm having a date with. 

But there are sometimes when ladies will offer to pay first even though you have offered to pay.

What should you do? 

Yet, another life and death situation. Well, you will really have to choose the right choice, especially when personality differ from person to person. 

If you insist to pay more, it just shows that you value her a lot. Society value money. But you value her, paying for the meal shows it.  Yes, I mentioned above that you may be buying her but it also shows that you have value for her.  

Most of the times, it will usually end up with the guy paying for it. However if you suay suay kena a lady who is very insisting. Convince her that she can pay for a movie later or next time. 

That's how you would keep the future date scheduled!

Well, i believe that you somewhat knows what to do when dealing about who to pay for the first date. 

Anyway, before a date, we guys should understand about the lady that we intend to have a date with. Try to find out what they like, their usual habits etc. This will really help you with a successful date!

Year of the Mane.

As i start this to write this post, I'm still thinking of how this post will be like.

There's a lot for me to update on, so please bear with me, especially this long post.

Happy Lunar New Year to all of my readers!

(I know it's a bit late though, but we celebrate it for 15 days, don't we?)

So let me start off with Chinese New Year eve, alright.

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Chinese New Year eve, 30th January 2014

Thank goodness that there isn't any lessons on that day. I was pretty sure that I won't be attending any lessons for the eve since the first day of 2014!  Of course, it made my visit to my alma mater for the Chinese New Year celebration possible. 

I was quite disappointed that most of us (in the exco) can't make it due to studies and tutorial. But no worries, exams are coming up and i definitely feel them. I just happened to make it since there wasn't any tutorials lol. 

The excos present were me, Ben and Calista. 

I never thought about joining in in the celebration at first since i was about to leave for Malaysia in the afternoon. But it was the 'LouHei' that attracted my attention. lol. I bet you didn't know that. 

The performance was actually quite boring to me, and i was really hoping that it will be over. But still, I must thank those who managed to make this celebration happen. I mean, there should still be some appreciation isn't it?

Overall, the attendance were pretty fair and expected. Great to see those teachers and those fresh graduates again back in Greendale.  

So this year, like previously, I'm returning to my Grandmother house at Muar Town in Malaysia. Definitely did encountered heavy traffic throughout the whole journey. And i believe that most of you went overseas? (especially when I saw one of my friends leaving for Seoul just before Chinese New Year)

Honestly, I hope I'm able to go overseas alone or with my friends one day. (*hint hint*)

Anyway, I'm quite surprised that there is a Baskin Robbins outlet in the middle of the expressway in Malaysia. Managed to get the double scoop Regular size at only RM15.80. Okay, maybe a little bit cheaper than Singapore though. lol. Here's a selfie and a shot with my mum. 

MUAR TOWN

So after about 1 plus hour on the expressway, we reached Muar Town and like many times previously, we definitely need some FRESH petrol. hahaha. Anyway here's a photo of the shophouse in Muar Town. I remembered taking photo of this shophouse last year in the morning, just before the sun rises. 

*Fast Forward to 11.30pm*

The sky of Muar Town is spectacular. You could even see dozens of stars with your naked eyes. That's because of low light pollution there compared to Singapore. Unfortunately, i didn't really have the equipments that i need in order to take those "milky way" or "galaxy" kind of photo. (PROMISE: NEXT TIME)

I kinda regret that I did not bring along my tripod as well and I actually have to use a box as a tripod.

(See this: https://twitter.com/21december_/status/428935266187755521/photo/1 )

Nevertheless i did managed to take some great shots! 

And one thing great about being in Malaysia is that we get to shoot fireworks without police intervention etc.  

And I happened to be on a field when the clock struck 12am.  Guess what happened? I was surrounded with fireworks shooting up in the sky. It's like all those debris coming down from the sky, landing on the field. And gosh, I'M IN THE FIELD. I'm literally in the centre of the fireworks shooting area. But the good thing is that I managed to see something that is being rarely seen in Singapore.  

Chinese New Year Day 1, 31st January 2014

Outfit of the Day: Aeropostale X Denim Jean X Lee Cooper

Started the day with quite a number of bangs as i mentioned earlier on. It's going to be a great year ahead. The first house that we visited was in Malacca and we took about 45mins to get there. 

So it wasn't a relative that we visited but an old best friend of my mum, whom used to rent a room in the old house of mine in Kovan when I was very young.  Apparently, i didn't have any memory about her. 

Anyway, I wished i could stay longer in Malacca as it was like my first time there in like about 4-5years.  There's lot of great scenery there, like the famous red houses. Ahh. I shall visit it the next time! 

Selfies of the Day

After that  (short)  Malacca visit, we visited my aunt house back at Muar and I was really bored, so i took a photo with their Merc. lol

 Chinese New Year Day 2, 1st February 2014

Outfit of the day and its detail.

Abercrombie and Fitch X Rolex X Lee Cooper X Denim Jeans

Managed to take a full extended family photo on the third day in order to welcome our new family member, JiaJun. (baby cousin, he's gonna be 3 soon!)  Our previous family photo was only taken like, in 2010 during my uncle's wedding.  So it's like surprising and a fun thing to do this year! And it was my idea to actually take a full extended family photo.  And I'll be framing it up and hang it in my Grandmother's house. 

After that messy and noisy discussion of getting who to stand here and there, we finally set off to visit some relatives and I swear the weather in Muar is really unforgiving. It's like around 33Deg Cel in the day and about 23DegCel in the night.  How i wish it's cooler. (*hint hint*)

Photo with my Beloved Sister

Chinese New Year Day 3, 2nd February 2014

Outfit of the Day

Polka Dots Shirt X Rolex X Denim Chino Shorts X Lee Cooper

Was back in Singapore around 4pm in the afternoon and you will never believe what we actually bring in with us. 100packets of Otah ! Enough for a whole year. This Otah brand is actually 'XiaoMei Otah' from Muar.  We managed to find it after some searching on the net. Heard about this brand previously when my mum went to Batu Pahat last year and she brought some back! It taste better than the usual one we bought from Muar ever year. 

Well, about 40 plus packets are actually ours though. The rest are for gifts or distribution.

In addition, there are also gifts like wife cakes, salted bean cakes etc brought from YongSeng gift shop. (the one and only F&B gift shop that we rely on)

The whole boot of the car was actually filled with goods and foods. My goodness. There's barely enough space to accommodate our luggage. 

And then, the favourite part of Chinese New Year, gambling.  My uncle was the one who ended up eating all our bets. I BET HE WON 200 BUCKS.  Gosh, we lost about 60 bucks. 

That pretty much sums up my first 3 days of Chinese New Year. I really hope that it's gonna be a good February ahead, especially with those exams and presentation coming up. Not forgetting about Direct Polytechnic Admission opening ceremony and orientation. There's really too much to fret over. 

*note 1: All photos are edited on hand through Google Snapseed.

*note 2: Credits to Joyce (Beloved Sister) for certain photos

*note 3: Photo from DSLR camera are not edited yet. Will update this post with more pictures later.

Update 1:

*View Full Album here: https://www.facebook.com/desmondlgy/media_set?set=a.10202181655115885.1073741829.1024330326&type=1

We got a hell lots of problems these days.

Lots of problems these days.

Especially with the transport system nowadays. Probably some of you guys have heard of the just-recently opened downtown line and Marina Coastal Expressway (MCE) and, of course, the not-so-famous issues regarding these two.

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First up, downtown line. 

There were 2 disruptions within the first week of operations. That isn't a good sign.

I was expecting better performance from the downtown line as well as from SBST. 

After all, i still believe in SBST these days, since the most frequent usage MRT line for me will be the North East line. Definitely, there are certain issues to be made known and solved.

My opinion about the 27th December's disruption on the downtown line is...

You can't blame a kid for the disruptions, don't you?

As many netizens pinpointed that there should be better measures for the so called 'Detrainment Device'  (that's what i call it, whatever), I think that the most important issue is not just that particular disruption, do you think that there are certain lapses in the Operation Plan of the Downtown line.

Personally, i haven't get to experience the downtown line yet, but soon; and hopefully i don't get stuck in the tunnel or whatsoever. 

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Next, Marina Coastal Expressway (MCE).

Being an enthusiastic person about the transport as well as directions (well, i don't really have a good sense of directions though, i get lost sometimes), i sure have a lot to comment about this.

Just this morning, jams and congestions took place at the MCE.

How great guys, you get to be stuck under the sea. Nope not underwater like how spongebob is like. 

Literally under the sea (you don't get to see the water).

https://twitter.com/SGAG_SG/status/417496704296828928/photo/1

So does the MCE stands for Massive Congestion Expressway? You decide for yourself.

Hopefully, there won't be any accidents in the tunnel, you won't want that to happen though.