Time-less Friends

Have you ever been in a situation whereby you could easily make time for a friend of yours? 

Let's just keep it realistic. You treat this friend like someone you can confide in, someone you can trust, and someone whom you thought he/she will return whatever you gave.

Yes, you could easily make time for him/her. But the question is, will he be able to make time for you, in a very short notice.

There are 3 kind of people when it comes to time. 

The first kind is one who can make time for anyone in a very short notice. 

He/she seems to be VERY free.

The second kind is one who is always busy when you contact them.

It seems like they vanished into thin air till they are uncontactable.

The last one is the one who respond to you and told you how busy they are and so on.

And then they somewhat came up with an excuse to reject you.

And somehow, you see him/her on the street with friends, shopping etc.

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The third kind of people is the most detestable one and by far, the worst friends i have ever had.

Let not go into detail who he/she is. (There's too many for me to list out anyway!)

But don't you feel so cheated? Perhaps that scenario seems too unjust to that person. 

But how about giving him/her an advance notice? 1 week? 2 weeks? Or even 1 months?

But no matter what, even if you give a fucking 1 month notice, they will just tell you they are not sure whether if they're busy or not.

I mean, it doesn't hurt to reserve a date for someone that he/she is close to? Does it?

And then the worst part, when the date get nearer and you manage to ask him/her about it. 

Guess what, that reply will make you go crazy. 

"Huh. Since when you told me ah?"

"You got tell me beforehand meh?"

"I having dinner with someone already!"

Really is 'Act Blur, Live Longer'

Whatever the reply is, it's just going to make me very fumed.

Trust me, I can't take it when people are just so irresponsible, act blur, and tries to shake me off.

But hey, if you're trying to shake me off, why not do it the hard way?

Why must you take a big detour, telling me that you need to check your availability when the date get nearer and even get someone to eat dinner with (god knows whether if that's true anyway?)

If you hate or dislike to make time for me, simply tell me in the face. I really hate it when people come up with all sort of excuses to shake people off. The more excuses you try to come up with it, I get more fumed about it.

It really funny how the one person that you're willing to take bullet for, tends to be the one who pull the trigger.

To the friends who are always 'time-less':

I don't care whether if you going to make time for me or not. But trust me, you have already LOST my trust in you, managing your own time, your friends and availability. It has come to this situation that i have to pity you about the way you planned your time to be.

Coming up with all sort of excuses just to shake me off, seems to be the most despicable actions I have ever seen and it could be the most despicable actions that you ever did in your life.

Simply amazing. I couldn't agree further.

You could easily make time for your friends, but you couldn't make time for someone who trusted you, confided in you and who always make time for you?

It seems to imply that you have already dislike the time i made for you way before this happen.

You know who you are. 

Flirters

Before I begin on this post (very offensive), I would like to clarify the meaning of the word 'flirt'. It has become a norm that everyone think people who talks to the opposite gender is consider a flirt. 

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¹flirt

verb \ˈflərt\

: to behave in a way that shows a sexual attraction for someone but is not meant to be taken seriously

: to think about something or become involved in something in a way that is usually not very serious

: to come close to reaching or experiencing something

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I often get judged by people and sometimes, or even most of the time, got people who referred me as a flirt. Probably there are always picture of me and girls on my instagram. I can tell you, they're just friends of mine, who happened to be girls, that made an impact in my social circle. 

So does that mean that any guy with an instagram profile that is filled with girls and the user picture is a flirt? There's 50% chance he is. It's either yes or no. 

For those of you who know me well enough, I strike conversation with girls is to understand them more and expand my social circle. I don't do it just to do any pick up or whatsoever. But as for those who want to judge me based on my instagram, you don't know me well enough. Perhaps you need to speak to me more often. :)

If you have read the definition above clearly, the definition highlighted something that is pretty obvious, which is not serious while expressing verbally or even in terms of behaviour.

So let me ask you, which kind of guy is the worst shit ever?
1. A guy who is single and flirts
2. A guy who is attached and flirts

Of course, you will choose the 2nd guy. Those are the kind of guys that hurt the girls big time. Seriously, who died and made this kind of guy KING?!

Often, when I see people flirts when they are attached, it just make me feel so disgusted. 

You have a girlfriend, and you are so fucking desperate for fuck?

Why the heck did you even get into a relationship then?

Not trying to contradict myself yet, but it appears that being single seems to be the best situation to flirt all you want before getting into a relationship. BUT NO, that's not the main point.

Tell me, who the fuck upload an intimate photo of him and a girl on the instagram?!

And not to mention, the girl is not even his girlfriend.

Hey, I do understand that you're attached, but please, fucking respect your girlfriend.

Perhaps you're born like this to flirt, but don't fucking hurt your girl because of flirting.

It just make you a bastard, and a flirt.

You get a fucking bad reputation, and maybe even worse off like a playboy.

You may be good looking, you may have girls behind chasing after you. 

But grow up. You will never be able to sustain long in a relationship.

How do i know that? Because all your previous relationship appears to be in the same situation as i describe. You flirt here and goes back to her like an obedient puppy.

Seriously, i don't even respect a single shit about you.

If its not her whom I care about, you're already worse than a shit without anyone hinting to you.

So grow up and stop flirting before you become the World's Greatest Flirt. 

10 Types of Worst Friend Ever

Just a personal opinion of the 'friends' I have met throughout my secondary school and poly life.

Not meant to offend anyone, but if you know which kind of friends you are, time for some reflection.

1) 'Friends' who backstabbed you

I have been through this kind of things countless of times. Definitely more than the amount that i can count with my fingers. 

"Hey bro, I support you till the end" 

Yes, they told you this. But guess what, the moment you turned, you have no idea whether they are smiling at you. An evil smile. 

Then you heard from your friends that this 'brother' of yours has been speaking behind your back. 

"This bastard, he really think that i support him? Fat hope. He's a fucking loser." 

He act like your FRIEND, but in fact, he isn't. You treated him as a friend, but in fact, he is a 'FRENEMY'. 

2) 'Friends' who put aeroplane

Yes, we often have friends who ask you out at times. Or rather, we 'booked' them in advance. Probably 1 weeks. One example of what i experienced. I booked 1 month in advance. If you were in that situation, do you expect your friends to check their schedule and get back to you? 

Oh yes, i did expect that. Replies i got was "yes i can", "i think i can" , "steady la" etc.

Never trust this bunch of people who put aeroplanes no matter in what kind of situation. 

Because even if you remind them 1 week before the 'booking', they will tell you "got ah?" , 

"since when you ask sia?" "never say earlier!" etc.

This type of friends are definitely not your TRUE FRIEND.

3) 'Friends' who will pay you back next time and doesn't

I haven't actually experience this before, not because i don't lend people money. But most friends that i lent money to are people who trust.

But admit it guys, we often saw people sharing posts and tweets on Facebook and twitter about this guy or girl owing money for 1 year plus already and yet to pay back.

Well, there are two sides to the story. We won't judge on that. But don't you hate it when people won't pay you back even if they said they will back then? 

4) 'Friends' that don't have time for you...

Friends that don't have time for you but has time for their classmates. Wow. Simply unbelievable. I've been through this for numerous of times, and it just sucks so much. 

A - "Hey dude, any free time for lunch this few days?" 

B - "Hey there, so sorry i don't have time this few days. I need to rush my projects"

And then for the rest of the days, you walked past the canteen and you saw him with his bunch of ladies and gentlemen having lunch together. Instant feeling of 'betrayal'.

5) 'Friends' who are only willing to accompany you when their partners are away.

It's the fact somehow. We rarely get to see our friends when they are in a romantic relationship. I'm not trying to say that get out of that relationship and spend more time with me. I would say, go for a balanced relationship between your partner and your friends.

But it seems really bastard when this friend of yours decide to accompany you ONLY when his/her partner is away. It seems like he/she only make time for his/her partner.

6) The friend who swears she won’t tell anyone that huge secret you just accidentally told her...

Admit it, we always have this friend in our life. And the next day, the whole school knows about it. And this huge secret that you told her usually is this small crush that you have. 

Seems like you gonna have a little bit of awkward moment with that crush of yours.

7) The friends who constantly brag about every single thing.

"Hey, this is my new phone!"

"WOW. I had starbucks today!"

"I have this friend of mine who treated me to a great dinner!"

Enough said. You don't seems like you care.  Ear plug please.

8) The friends that take 1 full day or more to reply you...

I really hate this so much. It can literally burn 1000 calories out of my daily calories intake just to wait for the reply. 

It seems impossible to make plans with him/her. And when you finally do, he/she inevitably cancel it or reschedule it with some lousy excuses.

9) The friends that insist on having this and that

Trust me. When we get into big group or cliques, there are bound to have conflict. There will be one friend who wants to eat Mac, then the other one wants KFC, then there's a friend who want to eat healthily like salad.

Then this friend of yours insist on eating mac and everyone follow suits. It seems everyone is giving in every time. 

10) The friends that will add a little bit of sarcasm to every sentence they make...

"Hey, you look good, for someone like your size."

We really hate this kind of people. I know there are times that we can be really comfortable with each other like "Hey you fucker. ". Of course we know it's a damn joke.

But hey, there isn't any need for that sarcasm. And that isn't funny at all.

Perhaps we should make a comment to him/her like 

"Hey, you seemed busy with everything. Busy fucking your bloody mind too?"

Nah, I doubt we want to be like him/her either. Sucks to be like him/her anyway.

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so.. if you ever have this kind of friends, I would suggest DUMP them seriously. They are like toxic to you. Ready to fuck your mind, torture you mentally. 

Craziest Friday Night Ever

That amount of hype and wow factor was completely fascinating. 

This year's Honours Day was completely unbelievable. 

As one of the guests being invited to Greendale 8th Honours Day, the fact that Greendale is already celebrating their 8th Honours Day kind of shook me. I could still remember vividly that in 2009, I was part of the 'event backbone' of the 3rd Honours Day. 

Time really past very quickly. It's 2014 and Greendale Honours Day has entered its 8th installment.

To me, it's still quite shocking. But nevertheless, as an alumni, I'm really glad that Greendale has grew so much from Nurturing Talents, Developing Character to Inspiring Lives.

One thing that I'm proud of being an Alumni is that we are able to nurture talents in the alma mater.

It's not easy that Greendale managed this far. This 8 to 9 years has been a long one, especially for those teachers who have stayed throughout since the first day Greendale was set up.

(With Mr Chen PK, co-form of my sec4 class)

(Uhh, a complete family photo? This two couple teachers must be glad that they have 4 adopted same-age kids!)

(Mr Syed is one of the most inspiring teacher i ever met. Having him was the turning point for my SS. From F9 to A1! An inspiring teacher indeed!)

Yes you won't believe this. Greendale has done it again. In 2012, they had the Greendale SHINES which was organised to appreciate what the students have done and contributed to the CCAs. It was held at the RUPEE room then. (clarkequay).

This year, they had a disco right in the Multi Purpose Hall (MPH). I must agree that the MPH is really multi purpose. From events to a disco. Completely wow. 

I mean WHICH SCHOOL CAN HAVE A DISCO IN THEIR SCHOOL COMPOUND?!

(With Jonas and Changzhi in the wow. 'disco' room)

I'm proud to be part of Greendale. Anyway, share a photo on Instagram that depicts your life in Greendale, hashtag #spreadthegreendalejoy and mention @greendale_alumni ! Perhaps you might be featured or even win a prize ! :)

Valentine.

I guess everyone is out celebrating the day with their valentines or with their close friends.

Well, I'm here; having the same daily routine today with some special perks.

What is Valentines Day for? 

Honestly, I always thought it's a day for lovers to hang out together, do whatever couples does. It's like a day specially dedicated to the couples on the planet earth. Maybe life is just so unfair, there's no  (official) day that is dedicated to us, the singles.

If you are thinking like this, perhaps you should change your perspective. Although valentine's day is specially dedicated to couples, you could still show your love toward your friends. Any friends would do.

Unfortunately, it's a bit wasted isn't it. Showing love toward your friends.

Apparently, if you have too many friends, it will take you much effort to show love to all of them in a single day itself.

Well, I could say that this valentine day is pretty screwed up for me.

It's not because of being single, i'm single for the 3rd year without a valentine, so what's the big deal?

It's about friends. Showing love to friends, and yet to some who doesn't appreciate it, doesn't give a damn about it. It just sucks isn't it. 

I won't really speak much about who and what I am talking about, but my feelings.

I should really move on to the positive side. 

Anyway, I would like to thank those who really made an effort to prepare these gifts despite all these busy weeks!

And yes, it's the last day of school today and poly year 1.

I can't believe a year actually passed so fast.  Oh well. 

I'm really gonna miss it a lot.

Thanks to those who made my day (as well as those who screwed it up) !

Update 1:

Apparently some of you guys know that i left one of my DPA clique, 'Zeus' through my ask.fm and some are trying to figure out what this post is actually talking about. 

So there was a question that ask me why i get so irritated easily and i decide to answer it relating to how i exactly felt before i left the clique.  

Deprived.

Many people are constantly deprived of sleep, money, energy and so on...

Personally, I feel that the things that i'm deprived of depends on the situation itself.

For instance, if one rushes projects in exchange for his/her sleep time, then that will be counted as deprivation of sleep and energy as well.

But I would rather be in that situation than be deprived of something in a long term period.

Perhaps, there isn't any cure for this. I'm constantly depriving of friends. Like i mention two posts before, I feels as if i'm a burden to my friends, to the fact that i even push them out of my life at certain point.

The logic "I have only myself to count on" seems to be true.  Sometimes, you feel better when you're alone. You get to enjoy every single moment of being with yourself, thinking of many stuffs that you want to make it happen or maybe you're even daydreaming.

But, suddenly, the thought of being alone startled you...

The fear of falling from a height that you scaled halfway towards what you're thinking.

And apparently, that height refers to the point where friends come in.

This point is the encouragement point. Whenever we drive ourselves towards a certain goal, wanting to make it happen, we often find ourselves stuck at that particular point. Because that's the maximum point that you can reach, alone. 

We couldn't reach our destination alone, without the support of our friends.

So why am i constantly deprive of friends?! Do i have a goal to achieve or something? 

There are times when I feel so aimless. 

Perhaps, i just need a person whom i recently encounter to confide in. 

I tend to think and worry about small little things that often relates to how i feel exactly. 

But then i thought, what is the possibility of getting people to stay when they already know you story? Majority will stay, because they wish to hear your problems.

But those who leave? Mainly because they got tired of you.

Update 1:

How many times have i heard of people telling their friends, "Hey, this is my best friend, Desmond" ?

I can easily count that with my 2 hands. I can often be a close friends to others, but when i said that this person is the best of the best friend. I seriously mean it. 

But do I actually expect that same person to treat me like how i treated him/her? 

Yes, i do expect that to happen. Given the conditions for me to treat that person like this, I would expect that that person have all kinds of reasons and conditions to treat me likewise.

I do understand that some of you may disagree to what I'm saying, but in the real world. We do expect people to treat us like how we treated them, don't we?

But the higher the expectations, the painful it is.

Friends, Does it matters?

Usually, i don't really bother about the fact that I have too much friends or in another words, being too social. But just once in a while, there's this feeling that I always felt it was so uncommon, much more like a feeling never encountered before.

This feeling is the feeling of loneliness.

Can you believe it? A person who is so sociable has a moment of loneliness? I can't believe it either.

It's so irony. How could I feel lonely when there's friends around me? Honestly speaking, it's either i'm starting to drift from ALL my friends or maybe it's just that im being paranoid. Sadly to say that it is definitely me drifting away from them.

I believe most of you reading this felt the same too, at some point in life.

You met this particular person and find that you're very comfortable with this person. You get close with him/her for a while and then out of a sudden, both of you are back to being stranger. Maybe stranger isn't the right word to use; but aquaintence ? That sounds more appropriate.

"Real friends are better to keep than fake friends"

Yes, all of us heard about this many times before, but im just gonna ask you this.

But what do we exactly mean by REAL friends?

- one who stay by your side and providing a listening ear ONLY when you're feeling the worst moment ?

OR MAYBE

- one who constantly keep in touch with you, stay by your side, providing you a listening ear, giving advice and tips on your relationship and other issues, regardless of how you're feeling ?

Im confused with this question too.

But i just got to say that the process of meeting this person, getting close with him/her, sharing your problems with him/her and out of a sudden, you lose this friendship to aquaintence, that is purely BULLSHIT.

Rather, i would deem that losing a long-known friend whom you thought who is real to you is the most painful thing ever. It's like losing your girlfriend, just that this 'girlfriend' don't love you (wholeheartedly).

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The important thing is that, which you might not even know, that person didn't actually leave you.

You lost those friends because you shut everyone out of your life, only keeping those who you want to be with.

I got to be honest with all of you. Despite being a social person who is quite independent in a sense, i always feel desperate for company. Even after making more friends, im got so fed up with myself because its either i feel so uncomfortable with them or felt as if im a big burden to them.

I never failed to exclude people out of my life nowadays. I have tried to be close with people that i was once close with. However, this bad side of me always appear and forcefully shut them out. It's like I don't even want to have any link with them.

I really wish i could be much more better.