Those Sleepless Nights' thoughts.

Don't you always hate it when you have those sleepless night ?  Those action of rolling on the bed, trying to get up and go to the toilet, just to lie to yourself that you just opened your eyes for a moment and heading back to sleep soon.   Well, its not the case.  

Why are there those nights that you cant even have a wink of sleep? 3 reasons.
1. You woke too late and trying to sleep early
2. You have something in mind that you dont even have a clue about.
3. You're troubling over something.

Well, apparently, all 3 reasons had been my causes for those sleepless night in the past.

We all have something to trouble about. And its just so annoying to be unable to sleep because of that.

I often ask myself this, what should i do?

Honestly, i spent most of my sleepless night trying to think of solutions.  Which only a few work.

While sometimes, i actually look back at the past, telling me how far i have came, how much things i have sacrificed, and those stuffs that i have regretted giving up.

I would say, the stuffs that i have regretted giving up is the most troubling ones.  Some people would ask me, do i regret my action to give up a particular stuffs.   

I lied to myself and them, and said no. I dont even regret it because I gave up to search for and chase after  better dreams.

But as time goes by, it's definitely disheartening to look back at the past, those moment of the stuffs that you have given up on.  It just suck isn't it.  And by then, when you want that back, its too late.  You have given up all of it, getting it back is hard.  Even if you're successful in getting it back, are you sure you will be happy ?  Are you sure you won't have the same feelings as before, which may result you to give up once again?  Look, its just a never ending cycle. 

The solution? Its either you give up completely and dont allow your heart and mind to shake because of those moments you had OR you dont give up in the first place.

Apparently, most of us are left with only the first solution.  Well it isnt bad either.

The second solution will not guarantee you to be happy and comfortable in that situation before you give up.  It's probably a never ending cycle unless you or the other parties have a different perceptions. 

Would you want that to be the result? Yes, you have a chance to be alright in that situation again, but what are the amount of chances in attaining a success?

Personally, i would choose to take the 1st solution. I would rather give up completely and have no regrets.  Better said than done.  It's never that easy. It takes time, effort and the correct mindset.  But this will definitely guarantee you, a better perspective of the world and your surroundings. 

So what would you choose? 

 A better perspective of the world and the surrounding OR getting stuck in that hole of despair which has minimal chances of getting out?

Sympathy and Attention

"Everything is going to be alright"

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"Are you alright?"

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"What happened?"

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"You'll feel better"

These are just some of the questions that people mentioned to you when you're down.
Yes, it do show that they care from the outside.
But how many of them are actually concerned about your well-being?

Just because they're asking these questions, it doesn't mean they actually care about you.
Probably they just feel that there's a need to.
But tell me, how many are there who are willing to offer you a listening ear and their time to listen to all of your craps and nonsense?

Honestly speaking. Really honest. I really wished there are people who insist on asking or probe more when i said i'm fine, i'm alright. Perhaps that's just what us, humans need.
Sympathy & Attention.

Ask yourself this, have you never ever thought of gaining the attention of others in order for them to better understand us? Or just gaining the attention because you just want to be famous?

Face the reality, all of us wants attention from people around us.
Sometimes, it really set me thinking. Why are these people asking me whether if i'm alright and then when i said not really, they just said, everything is going to be alright.

I mean, you don't even know what happened, and you're telling me everything is going to be alright?
Yes, it is certainly that everything is going to be alright, but have you ever thought of giving advices and some support?

Have you ever thought of providing someone the best listening ear you have?

And there are really a lot of people out there thinking that trying to gain sympathy/attention is a ridiculous thing.
They just go "wa this bitch trying to gain attention because she chio"


Hello? Just because she's pretty and you're saying that she's a bitch? Why not look at yourself in the mirror before judging others? Are you better compared to her?
And just because she is pretty, you're saying she's gaining attention?

It's like that person practically made the issue of gaining attention a ridiculous and something that is unwanted.
But, have that person ever thought of watching himself/herself making that comment?

From my point of view, I would definitely say that comment was very ridiculous and unwanted.


Ask ourselves this, have we ever wanted to gain attention and sympathy from others?
I believe everyone does it in the past, now and then.

For example, you're sad. You don't just hide one corner and cry alone don't you?
It's more like,

1. You cry.
2. Stop crying halfway then tweet "i'm crying so hard now" , "why did this happened?"
3. Go back crying again.
4. Check replies from your followers


And if you were to ask me, whether i did it before. Yes, i did it.
Everyone, at some point in life, want to gain attention and sympathy.
So, give attention and sympathy to someone who really needs it, especially those who are down.

Stop making those ridiculous comments because it's not going to help.