Haters

“Haters and bullies are always cowards, you know. They like to pick on little guys.” - Scylar Tyberius

Yes, i can tell you I'm not bothered by the actions from my haters.  But who on earth, deep down below in their heart, can choose to ignore the fact that there's someone who hates on them without knowing why?

Don't you feel so maligned when someone accused you of something that you once never did before nor even have the slightest intention to do it? Apparently, you have never came across such people who could even curse on your parents for no apparent reasons, other than people who were trying to kid with you by mentioning 'kpkb' in any situation.  It just sucks to know that deep down below in your heart, there are people who wished that you were dead, never born or get out of their life.

Often, i get people telling me, 'hey, you're so social and friendly. I think you have never ending amount of friends"

Are you mad bruther?! Me, having never ending amount of friends? What a fucking joke. 

All of us could never ending amount or countless amount of friends, but who are those who stood by you when you needed help, a shoulder to cry on, a listening ear to hear all your bitching? Those are your great and true friends.

To certain amount of people, i seem like a cheerful and happy-go-lucky kind of people on the outside, but how many of you have thought of even coming into my life and experience how is it for me to live my own life?  You might even regret coming to think of how it is like. 

Seriously, you want to judge me because of something that people accused me of doing? Or judging me based on YOUR assumptions? 

Don't assume and never judge on your assumptions.

Because you may never even know your perception could be wrong. But it definitely proves one thing, it defines who you really are.  A sore loser who could only judge a person baselessly. 

We all have been there, done it.  We all judge, but make sure we judge with something that is proven.

No one is guilty unless proven. In the court, the accused isn't guilty unless the judge find him guilty, isn't it right?

I have enough of people who tried to make up stories, coming up with all sort of lies just to bring me down and even trying to manipulate others to hate on me. But why hate on someone whom you do not know about.

"You know my name but you don't know my stories" 

Tell me how often do you see this quote lying around somewhere on the internet? And how many of you actually retweeted this quote when it's on twitter before. I bet most of you does it. 

What's the most ridiculous thing?  People who anonymously hate on me.  I'm fine with that, but are you sure you really know me that well bro?! Have you even question yourself, how reliable are the remarks that you have made to me?  Having first impression about me is fine, but no one ever assume about first impression.  And have you ever thought about knowing more about me so that you can compare your current impression against your first impression.  I bet there's a big    gap in between that.

So you sure you wanna continue assuming? You can choose to continue but how about me telling the whole world that your parents failed to bring you up and that lead to bitching and assuming about me?  Do you like it? Or am I even suppose to treat your parents like this? 

If yes, why the heck should you even assume about me, hate on me whatsoever?

I'm perfectly fine with the extra gain of haters that i'm gonna have due to this post, but you guys still don't understand who i am. All you know can be, " oh desmond? that pathetic bastard?"  or something like "oh that piece of shit who rant on his blog about his haters?"

Honestly speaking, i have no idea how questions i received on my ask.fm (or even my answers) portrayed myself on the internet. But you wanna judge? Continue judging, but how well are you able to determine one's personality just based on his/her social networks, pictures on instagram or even this blog?

You have to get to know me personally. 

My first reaction when i got this question was that, I was super raged. It's not about someone who thinks that i'm ugly and annoying. Neither is it that i'm making a fool out of myself and the post on twitter is ridiculously annoying.  It's about that two words "just saying".

You don't go around insulting people and just add these two words "just saying" or even "no offence" .

Again, so how do you feel when i insult your parent that i mention above and i just mention "just saying"

Don't you feel offended? Do you that two words really make a difference to your insult?

Does it change your insult to a positive insult?

For your info, 

in·sult

verb

inˈsəlt/

1. 1.

   speak to or treat with disrespect or scornful abuse.

So do you even understand the word "insult" now? You're treating someone with disrespect, and yet you said, just saying no offence.  You think it really help that person think that hey that person is respecting me by saying those two words? 

CLAIM 1:  Asking myself question on ask.fm - 

Tell me who the heck does that on ask.fm. Honestly speaking, I have never ever once ask myself question on ask.fm.  Believe it or not, your choice.  And pathetic? Are you sure I'm pathetic when you're trying to make up some stories just to bring me down?  Who's the one pathetic here?

CLAIM 2: No one cares whether if i start studying - 

Again, some people choose to assume that nobody cares. So tell me, are you trying to say I'm asking myself question again so that it shows that people are concern about my academic issues?  I have no time for that.

So what if i have already started studying, does it concern you?  Honestly, i feel very insecure even if i studied. It's like to me, i didn't even study at all. Here's the problem of perceptions again.

CLAIM 3: You shouldn't be in DPA. How the heck did you get in?

Why shouldn't I be in DPA?  

Does the exercise restricts students that are physically disabled? Apparently, it doesn't. Proof? There's a physical disabled freshies in TP DPA.  So if he can, why can't I?

And i proven my worth to pass the exercise through the Course Manager. So are you saying my Course Manager is blind?  Honestly, you guys are just being jealous of me. Seriously, get a life and stop trying to pull people down.

 CLAIM 4: You think you well liked as Group Leader?

Another assumption. 

CLAIM 5: ZEUS

Another hater that tries to bring me down. Apparently, you're gonna fail.

Zeus were practically the main clique that i have in DPA. So if you think that i created this clique myself that contains only me in the group. Maybe you wanna scroll down more.

They were ones who are in the clique. So who are you to assume that it's only me in the clique?

Friends who are close to me usually tells me, hey ignore those people, it will be fine, it will be over soon. 

Yes, i want to ignore. I want it to be fine. I want it to be over soon. 

But on the other side, I want to make a stand. I'm not going to allow those people to bring me down, i stand up against those bitches and bastards.

I don't know why. It just make me feel so insecure, annoyed and emotional.

So you think i like it? You think i like to get judged and criticised for every actions that i take, and then when i fall, people are just gonna say I'm seeking attention.

Even if i fall, you're the reason why i fell. But fat hope, that won't happen.

I may not know how to deal with it when people hates on me, throwing vulgarities at me...

But one thing i'm gonna do is to stand up against it.

I don't care how many more haters i gain because of me going against it.

So here's a question, do i hate you (haters) ?

Not at all.

But it's just so sad to know that you guys do not appreciate my existence and the difference i could make.

And how do i feel after gaining so much hatred?

Honestly speaking, you won't understand the pain unless you going through it 

Lastly, if you want to continue accusing me of things that i have never done before or trying to bring me down by saying i deserve it, i shouldn't have done that, i'm an attention seeker then shouldn't you think about yourself?

You're giving me all the hates and attentions. Not me.

Every single one of you, who are reading this post, don't think that i'm trying to gain sympathy or attention or trying to dissolve the hatred that people have on me. But what i'm trying, is to express my thoughts that are buried deep down in my heart, how I exactly feel to be hated upon. Perhaps, some of you may have experienced it before and really feel me. But do you think that hating on me without knowing how is my life like, is doing me justice?

Valentine.

I guess everyone is out celebrating the day with their valentines or with their close friends.

Well, I'm here; having the same daily routine today with some special perks.

What is Valentines Day for? 

Honestly, I always thought it's a day for lovers to hang out together, do whatever couples does. It's like a day specially dedicated to the couples on the planet earth. Maybe life is just so unfair, there's no  (official) day that is dedicated to us, the singles.

If you are thinking like this, perhaps you should change your perspective. Although valentine's day is specially dedicated to couples, you could still show your love toward your friends. Any friends would do.

Unfortunately, it's a bit wasted isn't it. Showing love toward your friends.

Apparently, if you have too many friends, it will take you much effort to show love to all of them in a single day itself.

Well, I could say that this valentine day is pretty screwed up for me.

It's not because of being single, i'm single for the 3rd year without a valentine, so what's the big deal?

It's about friends. Showing love to friends, and yet to some who doesn't appreciate it, doesn't give a damn about it. It just sucks isn't it. 

I won't really speak much about who and what I am talking about, but my feelings.

I should really move on to the positive side. 

Anyway, I would like to thank those who really made an effort to prepare these gifts despite all these busy weeks!

And yes, it's the last day of school today and poly year 1.

I can't believe a year actually passed so fast.  Oh well. 

I'm really gonna miss it a lot.

Thanks to those who made my day (as well as those who screwed it up) !

Update 1:

Apparently some of you guys know that i left one of my DPA clique, 'Zeus' through my ask.fm and some are trying to figure out what this post is actually talking about. 

So there was a question that ask me why i get so irritated easily and i decide to answer it relating to how i exactly felt before i left the clique.  

Family

I believe all of us have, at least once, went through the cabinets, wardrobes, cupboard and whatever hidden corner in the house just to find all those old photo albums and photos. And we often have this feeling. The feeling that all of us will get when we look through all those photos. 

Photos are the only way to reminisce, especially in this era of advanced technology.

It seems that the physical photos that we have seems to be a thing of the past. Proof? We have proven in our daily life. In the past, we have film cameras, in which we only get to see the full picture in a physical photo.  Nowadays? We have smartphones and digital cameras. With technology advancement, we can even import photos into our computer and save it in our hard disks. 

So back to the point. The feelings we get when we browse through all these photos. It's like a special feeling. You get to imagine how your childhood is like although you've been through it years back then. But i do believe all of us could only remember fragments and small part of our childhood.

Which part of your childhood has the greatest impact on your life today?

Physical

Well, the only greatest impact (and literally) i ever had from childhood was when i fractured my elbow twice. The first time happened when i was playing near a staircase (4 steps only la) and I happened to fall and roll down. That was like the greatest pain i ever had in my life. 

The second fracture took place when i was around 5-6 years old. It was kinda stupid of me to try to ride the bicycle at that speed and trying to ram it into my sister. Guess i was that playful in the past eh? Hahah, that was the most serious fracture then. Unfortunately, the bone didn't really heal by itself after being in a cast for about a month.  Then here comes the scary part. Apparently, I have to undergo a surgery (yes a surgery at that age) to straighten my arm using two metal plates which will join the bones together.  

Yes, I was under full body anaesthesia. Obviously it doesn't hurt. Honestly speaking, i didn't know what's a surgery then. All i know was the end result. The end result? Yup, a scar on my left elbow. 

I always have the impression that the wound was literally 'glued' up. But as i grew up, I know.. It's actually stitches which i don't really like to have anyway. 

Mental/Mindset/Character

I guess the only part of childhood that really impact my life in terms of mindset and character is actually the time that i have with my family.  As you can see from the picture below, I'm actually (so called) born cheerful. It's like I'm fated to be cheerful no matter in what kind of situation.

Although i don't really remember much of my childhood, but ever since young, I do understand the meaning of happiness. I guess most of our childhood are either filled with laughters or your cries?

Well, we don't really have much to worry about during childhood, don't we? And we are still as happy. So what if we have more things to worry about now? 

In future, we could be reminiscing this period when we have things to worry about, just like how we are reminiscing about nothing to worry about during childhood.

After all, whether we are happy or not, our lives goes on. For every single day that passes means lesser amount of time for us to be happy. That's why, to me, we should be happy and positive in every aspects of our life.  Yes, we do have difficulties at some point in time of life. But why not we face it positively with a smile, telling ourselves that we can get over this obstacle with a smile on our face.

Getting over an obstacle in life is no longer something to commemorate about.

Getting over an obstacle in life with a smile is. 

Who is your closest family member besides your immediate family members?

My cousin, who is 1 year younger than me, is my closest family members beside my immediate family members. 

I guess it's due to the fact that we spend a lot of time with each other in the past. We do really have a lot of similarities, just that i ain't as smart as him.  (p/s he scored 8As in his national exam)

During our childhood, we often gang up to bully the another cousin because we really find it fun. Often, it will result on the other party getting the scolding and beating. And when we were like around primary school age, we will play with fireworks (small and medium ranges) during the Chinese New Year.  

I could even remember that there was a time that we didn't position the firework well and it's actually flew horizontally instead of vertically. And it exploded just less than 10metres away from us. Scolding seems imminent after that. 

As we grew up, the amount of time we really get together and have fun seems getting lesser and lesser. Especially when studies seems to be the most important nowadays. Nevertheless, I really do hope that we can really see each other more often. 

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"The great times we have during our childhood can never be experience once again, the only way to keep it alive is through our memory and the photos that we have. " - Desmond R.

It's about time that we should have our pictures in the computer printed out.

Frustration

Have you ever thought or having an impression that certain stuffs are just way too ridiculous?

I bet all of us have it before. We all do have patience and limits. We can't swallow everything without confrontation. Swallowing all those information without confronting will just lead to an overload. Just like how I am going to mention in this post.

So recently, I received an email that I'm required to go a PURELY VOLUNTARY PROGRAMME and in the email, it was stated that it's compulsory for me to attend.

Can you feel the irony here? It's voluntary and yet, I'm like forced to go unless there's valid reason(s).

Honestly, I felt so frustrated after the first time i heard about this. 

I do acknowledged that by participating in this activity, 

1. Students will have more exposure towards certain modules taken in their course of study
2. Students will be given SEAL points (in other words, CCA points)
3. Helps students to be a all-rounded individual as well as greater chance of admission into local university.
4. and so on...

But never once did this email mention that they will give us a choice of whether to go or not to. All they said was, it is compulsory. 

If you are a member of the public visiting the link of the programme, you will realised that this programme is purely voluntary. But apparently, it is not voluntary for me. 

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It's just plainly ridiculous and absurd.  We're tertiary students for goodness sake, not your little lower secondary students who listen to whoever is higher and do whatever what he/she say.

We are adults, and most of us are 18 years old this year.  I believe that we do have a say in whatever we do. 

"No one control our life like how we do it, because we are who we are." 

Year of the Mane.

As i start this to write this post, I'm still thinking of how this post will be like.

There's a lot for me to update on, so please bear with me, especially this long post.

Happy Lunar New Year to all of my readers!

(I know it's a bit late though, but we celebrate it for 15 days, don't we?)

So let me start off with Chinese New Year eve, alright.

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Chinese New Year eve, 30th January 2014

Thank goodness that there isn't any lessons on that day. I was pretty sure that I won't be attending any lessons for the eve since the first day of 2014!  Of course, it made my visit to my alma mater for the Chinese New Year celebration possible. 

I was quite disappointed that most of us (in the exco) can't make it due to studies and tutorial. But no worries, exams are coming up and i definitely feel them. I just happened to make it since there wasn't any tutorials lol. 

The excos present were me, Ben and Calista. 

I never thought about joining in in the celebration at first since i was about to leave for Malaysia in the afternoon. But it was the 'LouHei' that attracted my attention. lol. I bet you didn't know that. 

The performance was actually quite boring to me, and i was really hoping that it will be over. But still, I must thank those who managed to make this celebration happen. I mean, there should still be some appreciation isn't it?

Overall, the attendance were pretty fair and expected. Great to see those teachers and those fresh graduates again back in Greendale.  

So this year, like previously, I'm returning to my Grandmother house at Muar Town in Malaysia. Definitely did encountered heavy traffic throughout the whole journey. And i believe that most of you went overseas? (especially when I saw one of my friends leaving for Seoul just before Chinese New Year)

Honestly, I hope I'm able to go overseas alone or with my friends one day. (*hint hint*)

Anyway, I'm quite surprised that there is a Baskin Robbins outlet in the middle of the expressway in Malaysia. Managed to get the double scoop Regular size at only RM15.80. Okay, maybe a little bit cheaper than Singapore though. lol. Here's a selfie and a shot with my mum. 

MUAR TOWN

So after about 1 plus hour on the expressway, we reached Muar Town and like many times previously, we definitely need some FRESH petrol. hahaha. Anyway here's a photo of the shophouse in Muar Town. I remembered taking photo of this shophouse last year in the morning, just before the sun rises. 

*Fast Forward to 11.30pm*

The sky of Muar Town is spectacular. You could even see dozens of stars with your naked eyes. That's because of low light pollution there compared to Singapore. Unfortunately, i didn't really have the equipments that i need in order to take those "milky way" or "galaxy" kind of photo. (PROMISE: NEXT TIME)

I kinda regret that I did not bring along my tripod as well and I actually have to use a box as a tripod.

(See this: https://twitter.com/21december_/status/428935266187755521/photo/1 )

Nevertheless i did managed to take some great shots! 

And one thing great about being in Malaysia is that we get to shoot fireworks without police intervention etc.  

And I happened to be on a field when the clock struck 12am.  Guess what happened? I was surrounded with fireworks shooting up in the sky. It's like all those debris coming down from the sky, landing on the field. And gosh, I'M IN THE FIELD. I'm literally in the centre of the fireworks shooting area. But the good thing is that I managed to see something that is being rarely seen in Singapore.  

Chinese New Year Day 1, 31st January 2014

Outfit of the Day: Aeropostale X Denim Jean X Lee Cooper

Started the day with quite a number of bangs as i mentioned earlier on. It's going to be a great year ahead. The first house that we visited was in Malacca and we took about 45mins to get there. 

So it wasn't a relative that we visited but an old best friend of my mum, whom used to rent a room in the old house of mine in Kovan when I was very young.  Apparently, i didn't have any memory about her. 

Anyway, I wished i could stay longer in Malacca as it was like my first time there in like about 4-5years.  There's lot of great scenery there, like the famous red houses. Ahh. I shall visit it the next time! 

Selfies of the Day

After that  (short)  Malacca visit, we visited my aunt house back at Muar and I was really bored, so i took a photo with their Merc. lol

 Chinese New Year Day 2, 1st February 2014

Outfit of the day and its detail.

Abercrombie and Fitch X Rolex X Lee Cooper X Denim Jeans

Managed to take a full extended family photo on the third day in order to welcome our new family member, JiaJun. (baby cousin, he's gonna be 3 soon!)  Our previous family photo was only taken like, in 2010 during my uncle's wedding.  So it's like surprising and a fun thing to do this year! And it was my idea to actually take a full extended family photo.  And I'll be framing it up and hang it in my Grandmother's house. 

After that messy and noisy discussion of getting who to stand here and there, we finally set off to visit some relatives and I swear the weather in Muar is really unforgiving. It's like around 33Deg Cel in the day and about 23DegCel in the night.  How i wish it's cooler. (*hint hint*)

Photo with my Beloved Sister

Chinese New Year Day 3, 2nd February 2014

Outfit of the Day

Polka Dots Shirt X Rolex X Denim Chino Shorts X Lee Cooper

Was back in Singapore around 4pm in the afternoon and you will never believe what we actually bring in with us. 100packets of Otah ! Enough for a whole year. This Otah brand is actually 'XiaoMei Otah' from Muar.  We managed to find it after some searching on the net. Heard about this brand previously when my mum went to Batu Pahat last year and she brought some back! It taste better than the usual one we bought from Muar ever year. 

Well, about 40 plus packets are actually ours though. The rest are for gifts or distribution.

In addition, there are also gifts like wife cakes, salted bean cakes etc brought from YongSeng gift shop. (the one and only F&B gift shop that we rely on)

The whole boot of the car was actually filled with goods and foods. My goodness. There's barely enough space to accommodate our luggage. 

And then, the favourite part of Chinese New Year, gambling.  My uncle was the one who ended up eating all our bets. I BET HE WON 200 BUCKS.  Gosh, we lost about 60 bucks. 

That pretty much sums up my first 3 days of Chinese New Year. I really hope that it's gonna be a good February ahead, especially with those exams and presentation coming up. Not forgetting about Direct Polytechnic Admission opening ceremony and orientation. There's really too much to fret over. 

*note 1: All photos are edited on hand through Google Snapseed.

*note 2: Credits to Joyce (Beloved Sister) for certain photos

*note 3: Photo from DSLR camera are not edited yet. Will update this post with more pictures later.

Update 1:

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