10 Types of Worst Friend Ever

Just a personal opinion of the 'friends' I have met throughout my secondary school and poly life.

Not meant to offend anyone, but if you know which kind of friends you are, time for some reflection.

1) 'Friends' who backstabbed you

I have been through this kind of things countless of times. Definitely more than the amount that i can count with my fingers. 

"Hey bro, I support you till the end" 

Yes, they told you this. But guess what, the moment you turned, you have no idea whether they are smiling at you. An evil smile. 

Then you heard from your friends that this 'brother' of yours has been speaking behind your back. 

"This bastard, he really think that i support him? Fat hope. He's a fucking loser." 

He act like your FRIEND, but in fact, he isn't. You treated him as a friend, but in fact, he is a 'FRENEMY'. 

2) 'Friends' who put aeroplane

Yes, we often have friends who ask you out at times. Or rather, we 'booked' them in advance. Probably 1 weeks. One example of what i experienced. I booked 1 month in advance. If you were in that situation, do you expect your friends to check their schedule and get back to you? 

Oh yes, i did expect that. Replies i got was "yes i can", "i think i can" , "steady la" etc.

Never trust this bunch of people who put aeroplanes no matter in what kind of situation. 

Because even if you remind them 1 week before the 'booking', they will tell you "got ah?" , 

"since when you ask sia?" "never say earlier!" etc.

This type of friends are definitely not your TRUE FRIEND.

3) 'Friends' who will pay you back next time and doesn't

I haven't actually experience this before, not because i don't lend people money. But most friends that i lent money to are people who trust.

But admit it guys, we often saw people sharing posts and tweets on Facebook and twitter about this guy or girl owing money for 1 year plus already and yet to pay back.

Well, there are two sides to the story. We won't judge on that. But don't you hate it when people won't pay you back even if they said they will back then? 

4) 'Friends' that don't have time for you...

Friends that don't have time for you but has time for their classmates. Wow. Simply unbelievable. I've been through this for numerous of times, and it just sucks so much. 

A - "Hey dude, any free time for lunch this few days?" 

B - "Hey there, so sorry i don't have time this few days. I need to rush my projects"

And then for the rest of the days, you walked past the canteen and you saw him with his bunch of ladies and gentlemen having lunch together. Instant feeling of 'betrayal'.

5) 'Friends' who are only willing to accompany you when their partners are away.

It's the fact somehow. We rarely get to see our friends when they are in a romantic relationship. I'm not trying to say that get out of that relationship and spend more time with me. I would say, go for a balanced relationship between your partner and your friends.

But it seems really bastard when this friend of yours decide to accompany you ONLY when his/her partner is away. It seems like he/she only make time for his/her partner.

6) The friend who swears she won’t tell anyone that huge secret you just accidentally told her...

Admit it, we always have this friend in our life. And the next day, the whole school knows about it. And this huge secret that you told her usually is this small crush that you have. 

Seems like you gonna have a little bit of awkward moment with that crush of yours.

7) The friends who constantly brag about every single thing.

"Hey, this is my new phone!"

"WOW. I had starbucks today!"

"I have this friend of mine who treated me to a great dinner!"

Enough said. You don't seems like you care.  Ear plug please.

8) The friends that take 1 full day or more to reply you...

I really hate this so much. It can literally burn 1000 calories out of my daily calories intake just to wait for the reply. 

It seems impossible to make plans with him/her. And when you finally do, he/she inevitably cancel it or reschedule it with some lousy excuses.

9) The friends that insist on having this and that

Trust me. When we get into big group or cliques, there are bound to have conflict. There will be one friend who wants to eat Mac, then the other one wants KFC, then there's a friend who want to eat healthily like salad.

Then this friend of yours insist on eating mac and everyone follow suits. It seems everyone is giving in every time. 

10) The friends that will add a little bit of sarcasm to every sentence they make...

"Hey, you look good, for someone like your size."

We really hate this kind of people. I know there are times that we can be really comfortable with each other like "Hey you fucker. ". Of course we know it's a damn joke.

But hey, there isn't any need for that sarcasm. And that isn't funny at all.

Perhaps we should make a comment to him/her like 

"Hey, you seemed busy with everything. Busy fucking your bloody mind too?"

Nah, I doubt we want to be like him/her either. Sucks to be like him/her anyway.

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so.. if you ever have this kind of friends, I would suggest DUMP them seriously. They are like toxic to you. Ready to fuck your mind, torture you mentally. 

Craziest Friday Night Ever

That amount of hype and wow factor was completely fascinating. 

This year's Honours Day was completely unbelievable. 

As one of the guests being invited to Greendale 8th Honours Day, the fact that Greendale is already celebrating their 8th Honours Day kind of shook me. I could still remember vividly that in 2009, I was part of the 'event backbone' of the 3rd Honours Day. 

Time really past very quickly. It's 2014 and Greendale Honours Day has entered its 8th installment.

To me, it's still quite shocking. But nevertheless, as an alumni, I'm really glad that Greendale has grew so much from Nurturing Talents, Developing Character to Inspiring Lives.

One thing that I'm proud of being an Alumni is that we are able to nurture talents in the alma mater.

It's not easy that Greendale managed this far. This 8 to 9 years has been a long one, especially for those teachers who have stayed throughout since the first day Greendale was set up.

(With Mr Chen PK, co-form of my sec4 class)

(Uhh, a complete family photo? This two couple teachers must be glad that they have 4 adopted same-age kids!)

(Mr Syed is one of the most inspiring teacher i ever met. Having him was the turning point for my SS. From F9 to A1! An inspiring teacher indeed!)

Yes you won't believe this. Greendale has done it again. In 2012, they had the Greendale SHINES which was organised to appreciate what the students have done and contributed to the CCAs. It was held at the RUPEE room then. (clarkequay).

This year, they had a disco right in the Multi Purpose Hall (MPH). I must agree that the MPH is really multi purpose. From events to a disco. Completely wow. 

I mean WHICH SCHOOL CAN HAVE A DISCO IN THEIR SCHOOL COMPOUND?!

(With Jonas and Changzhi in the wow. 'disco' room)

I'm proud to be part of Greendale. Anyway, share a photo on Instagram that depicts your life in Greendale, hashtag #spreadthegreendalejoy and mention @greendale_alumni ! Perhaps you might be featured or even win a prize ! :)

Leaders are made, not born.

CAUTION: RISK OF GETTING A BAD IMPRESSION OF ME.

Before I begin, I will like to say that it took me a lot of courage to come up with this post, especially when i know that if i ever come up with a post that is kind of showing off to others, some haters will just find fault with me. 

Nonetheless, I decided to do up this post to prove that I'm not someone who shows off but someone who is speaking from real experience from how I was just a typical normal student to a leader that I am now.

"Leaders are made, not born."

As quoted, everyone is not born to be a leader. You don't see a newborn baby shouting "charge!" at the first minute right? Everyone can be a leader, it's just whether there is any right opportunities and the suitable environment for one to develop their leadership skills.

There are different kind of leaders. I must admit that I met different kind of leaders but not all.

There are good ones that are willing to help you when you face trouble as a leader. Then there are those not so good ones that throw you with shitty work that you have to do no matter what.

Nonetheless, be prepared to face different kind of leaders and learn from experience.

I was just a normal typical secondary student that was enjoying life in school. I wasn't good in studies either. I must admit that i got into troubles before such as getting into fights in school. HAHAHA it's guys nature to get into violence.

The key to successful leadership today is influence, not authority —Kenneth Blanchard

1) Greendale Broadcasting Corporation - Chairperson

But the question that changes everything was...

"I think you suit the criteria to be the chairperson of the CCA. Do you want to consider it?"

This question was asked by my CCA teacher, Ms Lee.

I must say that I wasn't very sure of what to do at that point of time. I know I was god damn happy that I suit the criteria and was approached by the teacher. It was like my wish to like control the whole CCA as and when I like.  At that point of time, i never thought that leadership was such a never ending experience.  I thought it's like a great chance to be part of planning logistics, manpower etc. I gladly took up the offer, not knowing of the dangers and risks ahead of me.

As I was invested as the Chairperson of my CCA, I felt a sense of pride. It was something i never experience before. Even my mum don't even know that I'm being invested as the Chairperson of my CCA.  HAHAHA.

I thought being the chairperson of the CCA is an easy task. It turns out not to be it.

For the first few months, I struggled to meet the expectations of the others. 

One thing that I never wanted to mention again was the conflict between me and my Vice Chairperson. There was a slight misunderstanding between him and the teacher, thus resulting in the conflict. 

Honestly speaking, I must admit that at that point of time, it was really hard to cope with that stress and conflict. I didn't have any idea what to do or even a solution to reduce the conflict. 

The only thing we know is that we use our voices to settle it. The one who is louder wins.

Even the talks between the both of us was probably meant to end in worsen conflict.

At that point of time, I really wish I have never accepted that offer. But it was too late anyway.

Because of this conflict and tremendous stress, my health declined. Ultimately, I fall. 

I was in the hospital, talking to my mum about how I feel. That moment was probably the only time that I was able to vomit everything out of my heart and chest. I felt such a great relief.

It was the best moment yet.

As I recovered from that panic attack, I tried my best to avoid any further conflicts with him but at the same time maintain the working relationship with him. I consulted many of my seniors and friends. I even broke down in front of my coach in the Leadership Challenge Camp. That was the time where i really felt so relieved. Tonnes of advices and skills was taught and passed down from my coach to me.  After the camp, I realised that

Leadership is not just a position, it's about the experience, strategy, mindset, maturity, responsibility and commitment of one. 

It took me many months to get over the conflict, accept the aftermath and move on with the amount of time before i stepped down.

(Pic: Group shot with the Seniors, Principal, Vice Principal and Ex Vice Principal in Greendale Honours Day 2011)

My definition of leadership is this: We are never a leader when success is all about us growing and learning new things. We are a leader only when we pass down the stuffs we learnt and help to grow others. 

After what it seems to be the first and most terrifying incident of my leadership journey, I was faced with a bigger challenge.  Managing a CCA with more than 120 members when Infocomm and GBC merged as one.  It was stressful. But it was worth it. 

This amount of members may be too much, but I was ready to face the challenge. 

I am not alone. Together with Ben, Xavier and a few other leaders in Infocomm, we managed to plan and organised a camp and also a games day kind of thing.

(Pic: GBC Games Day in 2012)

(Pic: 'Event Backbone' of Greendale Honours Day in 2012)

All in all, the leadership journey as the Chairperson of Greendale Broadcasting Corporation (GBC) was indeed a great experience. It was something that was unfamiliar to me at first. Throughout my term of office, I learnt many things from various people. For example, I have learnt many things from Xavier in that short period of time. His leadership was way better than me. I must say there are a lot of things that I have yet to learn at that point of time. Other include management of crisis, creation of teamwork, enhance the flow of operations as well as motivating people to do their best in whatever they could.

The position and the badges I received is only the 1st stage of the Leadership model. What matter most is when people knows how good you are in term of leadership that they are willing to trust you with whatever they can in order to make an event or project successful.

2) Greendale Broadcasting Corporation - Senior Advisory Board (SAB) - Director

As the ex-chairperson of GBC, one thing I wasn't able to let go was the presidency selection of the CCA. Together with Ben and Xavier, we managed to come up with a board named Senior Advisory Board (SAB) to provide advice especially in terms of management. The SAB is more focused on the annual presidency selection. 

(Pics: SAB involvement in Greendale CCA fair 2013)

(Pic: Full attendance of SAB during Chinese New Year Celebration 2013)

Although there were little of appearance, there are times where we go back to the CCA to observe how it is being run. For example, I just came back from the full dress rehearsal for honours day on Friday and I must say I have observed quite a lot from the way the CCA works as well as their event management.

Being in this board really help to train myself to be better in observing how people does their work and provide feedbacks, advices when deemed necessary. It's not about the technical skills anymore. I trust my juniors that they can pass down these skills to the next batches. But one thing that is difficult to grab hold of it is the management skills. I'm not saying I don't trust my juniors in managing the whole team. I must admit that at this age, we tend to see things so easily, thinking that a problem can be solved so easily. I've been through it and I know it the best. 

My aim is to eradicate that thinking by providing the best advices I can give through observations. That is what I should do, as a Senior Advisor. 

Leadership and learning are indispensable to each other. —John F. Kennedy

A little update to spice up my life

I swear upon my grave that this holiday is the busiest holiday that i ever had in my entire life.

Besides the temporary accounts assistant job that ended two days ago, I have a lot of things to settle.

1) Greendale Sec. 8th Honours Day 2014

Yup, it's the busiest period for the staffs and students in Greendale again.

This year, Greendale Sec. Honours Day is back into its 8th year.

I can't believe how fast time has flew really.

I could still remember vividly that I went back to Greendale to receive my award last year. 

Some photos below, including our then 'Oscars' Selfie'. Hahah

 I wish time didn't flew that fast. This year, I won't be getting anymore awards anymore. 

BUT. I was pretty glad that I did managed to be part of the Honours Day last year as a award recipient. For the past few honours day, I've been helping out as a "background worker". This just means I'm part of the event backbone. To provide AV support and stuffs.

This year is slightly different. I just came back from the first Full dress rehearsal today and I'm pretty sure that I have to be there for the next one too. This time round, I'm no longer a "background worker" anymore. I'm more of towards providing feedbacks and advices to those who are in charge and part of the event backbone. As a senior advisor to my CCA, I would say it's my job to teach what i couldn't and pass down the management / leadership skills through advices which i couldn't did well as before.

All in all, I'm pretty sure that this year Honours' Day will be great and interesting. Especially since I got some spoilers here and there. HAHAHA. 

Another good thing is that i received the invitation to join this year honours day as well. Well.. I'll be representing the alumni as the vice president this time round rather than an event backbone or award recipient. Thanks for the invitation, Greendale!

2) Greendale Alumni

I believe some of you have heard about the Greendale Alumni Membership Card. It's currently an ongoing project and I really can't reveal a lot of information. But i can say that this project was really the one that last the longest planning ever. I took about half a year to plan before executing the collection procedures and so on...

Right now, the card is like currently in printing. So I'm pretty glad everything has been quite smooth up till now. Hopefully there isn't any errors in the printing when i collect it next week or something.

HOPEFULLY.

I think that's about it for these few days. Press on guys if you are suffering from the busiest days of your entire life!

Return, Love.

Often, people around me get attached like so easily. I have no idea whether they really like their the other half or not. But deep down in my heart, I hope they really do.

Sometimes, i asked myself this. 

"When is my the other half appearing?"

The most common answer that i get was

"Nature will take its own course"

Or maybe even like

"When it meant to be, it will be."

There are times i questioned people, if nature take its own course, does it mean that there is a chance that people are likely to not get attached and married?

So are we going to wait until the other half appear?  No one can be sure that that person is the right half for you. Not even you can be ascertain at the first moment.

Does this mean that when the other half doesn't appear out of nowhere in future, it probably means that in this life, you destined to be single?

So imagine, this happens to everyone in the entire world.

Imagine everyone is waiting for that the other half to appear out of nowhere.

Well this probably means that it's the end for humanity.

There's no effort being laid. There's a goal, but there's no solution to get to the goal.

Waiting doesn't seems to be a solution. Searching for the right one seems to be a much appropriate reason than waiting. At least you're finding someone that you will love for the rest of your life.

Miracles doesn't happen that easily. Yes, i got to say patience is a must for miracles to happen. But if that miracle is something that is within our limits, why not put in the effort to reach it?

Other questions that people ask me are 

"How many previous relationships you have before?" or even like "When was your last relationship?"

Honestly speaking, i don't even want to care because it doesn't matter as to the right half that i'm searching for?

It's not like me having 3 relationships before is linked to how i'm searching for the right half.

These are just some statistics.

What matters most is the lessons I learnt from the past relationships and how to better handle it in the next relationship. (hopefully, it doesn't happen)

As to the first question that i mentioned in this blog post, I'm really glad that the one i'm searching for is someone that is somewhere nearby me. It just take god knows how many years for me to realise that she have been beside me, just because we doesn't talk.

Sometimes, the right half could be someone just beside you. You never know.

And for those who are asking me whether if i'm attached, I can tell you, no I'm not.

Speaking from my heart, I am not ready yet. I'm not ready to face the challenges posed by being in a relationship.

Yes, i see people being so happy in a relationship. I want to know how do they managed to be so happy. But even the best relationship has its own problems. The solution depends on how we tackle them.  It's not just one person but the both parties in the relationship.

It takes two persons to be in a relationship. Likewise, it takes two persons to face the challenge of a relationship.

I'm not ready. I'm not ready to face those challenges. I have not find a way to tackle those challenges. 

But that doesn't mean I'm not ready for a relationship.

Like i said above. 

"It takes two persons to face the challenges of a relationship."

The thing is that, I can never tackle those problems alone. I need another half and she must be the right half.

We can always get into a relationship easily, but it's whether we know if the other half is right one or the, unfortunately, wrong one.